You may think by my demeanor in public that I’m a socially extroverted person. Why else would I hold long conversations with complete strangers?
Because they started it.
I am quite happy to work on my own in solitude, listening to an audiobook, NPR or music of my choosing.
When I’m out in public, I’m not seeking a social exchange. I’d rather get my things and go.
So why the chatter?
- I’m nervous around others so I make the small talk to get through it
- I’m irritated by the interruption of the social exchange.
In the latter case, I’m apt to carry the conversation uncomfortably longer than necessary until it is a load of awkward. That way the individual is less likely to chat me up in the future.
In the case of nervousness, I use it to diffuse an otherwise tense or uncomfortable situation for all involved. Giving blood for a blood test…I don’t want to be in this slightly vulnerable situation with a complete stranger…so let the idle chatter commence.
I highly recommend babbling excitedly to a solicitor or evangelist to teach a lesson on why introverts need to be left alone.
I recall a phone conversation going on far longer than needed, so I chose to take command of the conversation and read a help guide to the person. About three pages worth. The call was being monitored for quality purposes; so it became a teachable moment for that agent and future agents in training.
I take great pleasure in turning the tables if my need for space and quiet has been threatened or dare they, infringe upon it.
And I hope you know that if I am seemingly sociable it’s not because I want to be. I’d rather be left to myself.