The single most challenging thing in life is to know when to ask for help, remembering that one is never left to go it alone. Turning a blind eye to the helping hands around you when in a time of great need is a grave mistake.
There are some who get an intrinsic reward from sympathies of the masses by hoisting themselves up as martyrs in the face of great adversity and challenge. Whether it is out of pride they find no resources, or to get the attentions they crave, remains a mystery.
There is no shame in asking for help. Please never take the load yourself if you feel like you are drowning. Reach out when you are overloaded. Someone will offer to help or point you toward someone who can help.
It is no sign of failure or weakness if you ask for help. The important point is that you must recognize when you need help.
- If it is sapping your energy/resources and there seems no solution in sight, no matter what you try; then you need help.
- If you feel your back is desperately against the wall with no path to resolution, then you need help.
- When you feel overwhelmed with all of the tasks/expectations set before you and you begin to shutdown physically or emotionally, then you need help.
- When you’re experiencing a highly charged emotional state and it seems never-ending, then you need help.
Being in any of these situations it is easy for one to be blinded by the situation and not see who is around who can help – thinking you are alone to handle it.
The important thing is to know you are never alone.
Let me repeat that with emphasis…
YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.
There are hundreds of thousands of folks who probably have gone through the very situation(s) you are in and can offer guidance and solutions. Maybe family, friends, professional agencies, counselors, doctors, psychiatrists, support groups, message boards…even a complete stranger.
But you must open your mouth and say, “I need help.”
Simply complaining or staying silent will not alert those around you that you need help. Everyone around you is working through issues of their own and may not be intuitive enough to know you are in dire straits and need assistance.
Know too, that just because a person is busy does not mean they are not open to help. Please do not use that as an excuse to keep sch-tum. If they cannot help directly, they may know someone or some resource that can help.
I know it is humbling to admit vulnerability, but we are a community and we are put on this earth to help one another.
When that help is given, remember it. Do not claim that it was never received or disregard the help that is offered. You are less likely to be helped in the future.
Some of my favorite songs regarding helping
The Band –
Billy Swan –
Joe Cocker –
The Staples Singers –
The Little River Band –
The Youngbloods –
And most importantly – Bill Withers